This book is dedicated to my Me Maw; Pauline Gower, my sister; Tammy Annette Zelenka and my father; George Clark Curevich. It was through these deaths I really began to understand the need to ask questions before people leave us. Bank accounts & possessions quickly dissolve. It is the heart of the person that we grieve for so long. It is in the never being able to ask just one more question that hurts our heart and prolongs our grief. I have had so many loved ones go before me, and I always wish I knew more than what I did about them.

I had the honor of speaking at both my sister and my father’s funeral. I was blessed, I knew them both very well. Someday someone will be speaking at your passing. How well will they know you? What will they say? 

About a month before my father’s passing he kept repeatedly asking me not to forget him, (as if I could). I thought, what a strange thing to say, he was after all, my father. The day before the year mark of the date of his death, I randomly got a YouTube alert for a song called, “I Didn’t Forget”. It was as if the song writer spoke to my soul and I couldn’t let it go. I had never heard this song before, and I had never been on that YouTube channel. I felt my father’s spirit.

This is a book to know the heart of the person. In the back of the book there is a section for accounts and possessions, but the purpose of this book is so others, such as children, grandchildren and their children will remember or know who you were when memories start to fade. Over 40 years ago, I heard a preacher say, “Look around the room, in 50 years there will only be a handful of people in the room, if any, who will even remember or know you existed.” After all these years, that statement has left such an impact on me. We all deserve to be remembered. We should matter, and our loved ones should know more about us.

It is my wish that your people find the answers and connection they will eventually look for after you’re gone by asking and answering questions before it is too late. 

All my life as a child growing up, I wanted to write something memorable and meaningful. This book was supposed to happen.

Maggie and Harper, my sweet little kittens, I will make sure you are taken care of.

I love you Me Maw, Tammy and Daddy. I didn’t forget. I will never forget.